Dishes

Ok, everyone has different ways of doing things. If each different approach to something in the end gets the same results everyone should be happy right? One would think so but most of us including myself look at things as my way is better and if it is not done that way then you are not happy. This is constantly happening at work but I will leave that for another post at another time. Today I am thinking about the dishwasher. My wife and I load the dishwasher in very similar ways. We scrape/rinse off anything big and put the dishes in the machine in a certain order i.e.: plates are together bowls are together etc… My mother in law was over for supper and offered to help with the dishes and she has a completely different approach to the dishwasher. Nothing is scraped/rinsed off and there is no particular order to the way the dishes are put in. When she finished filling the dishwasher it looked like someone through everything in closed the door and them picked up the dishwasher and shook it around. My personal experience with this type of dishwasher use almost always ends up with dishes coming out with food caked on. If the machine does not get turned on right away I wait until she leaves and then redo it all.
Don’t get me wrong I’m glad she offered and went through the trouble but every time she helps with the dishes I want to scream. Why do we let little things such as this bother us so much?