What is it about family?

What is it about family that really stresses you out? For those few that read this blog you know I have not been feeling right and have been unable to place the feeling. Well I think I have it placed and I think it is the stresses of dealing with family. No not my imitate family (wife and kids) but the extended family of brothers, sisters, brother in law, sister in law etc… What is it about family that makes you want to cringe? If a friend asks you for help or you ask a friend for help you will go out of your way to help each other. Put someone from the extended family in the place of the friend and you do everything you can to run and hide. In my case the family I married into is driving me crazy and I mean crazy. With out going into too much detail they are really messed up. Almost none of them are employed and therefore have all the free time in the world, which makes me jealous because I work full time and being that I work in television I work long shifts and overtime (the news dosen't stop for anyone). This causes problems for me because my kids say why can’t we do things like so and so does? We do things but not as many because they are at it all day everyday while we do it after work and on weekends. Since I am working they all think I have money to throw away. Ok I make good money but I have a “better” debt load. The majority still lives at home with mommy and don’t have the same expenses I have. I pay the mortgage, heat and light, phone, car payment, food all other loans and bills. There mommy pays it all for them. Think of the money I would have if I did not have to pay those things. They have more miscellaneous spending money than I do. Now I am not saying there is anything wrong with still living at home but when you do not contribute to the household I have a problem with it especially when I am constantly being asked to do things for that house and they do not return the help. I am routinely asked to come over and mow the lawn, do repairs, move furniture etc… I DO NOT MIND HELPING but when there are three adults living with mommy why should I? I should not have to do it. But I am expected to do it because they are all too lazy to. Would you want to go to someone’s house when asked to help clean out the basement to have three people there lying on the couch watching TV while you are working? I do not! They are all capable of pushing a broom and carrying boxes. Why should I when they will not they live there not me. My mother in law is constantly asking me to do such things and about two months ago I decided to stop helping and that is when I started to slowly sink down. Each time I have been asked I have voiced my opinion that so and so is quite capable of doing what I was asked to. After a while I also started adding that it’s about time that they start to contribute. So far all that has happened is that I feel guilty for not helping but I shouldn’t. And I am being made out to be the bad one because I am stirring up the pot oh! and get this I am being blamed because she had to hire someone to mow the lawn. Can you believe she had to hire someone because I would not do it? Why should I when she has three people between the age of 20 and 30 living there? Why couldn’t one of them get up off their ass and push the mower around? Now all I here is that I am being an ass and they are all asking my wife why I am being such a prick and not helping their mother anymore. Even my mother in law has been making comments to my wife about it. I am to the point that I don’t want anything to do with any of them. My mother in law does not think that her kids are doing anything wrong and that they do not need to help out. Give me a break they live there not me I have my own house to take care of. I have to stop now because the more I think about it the more frustrated I get.