more rambling

My friend W and I were talking today over drinks of rye and we have come to the conclusion that we and especially me are fed up with dealing with the masquerade that people in our lives put on for us. I am tired of putting up with the bullshit, lack of honesty and the two faced show that people do to each other. As you can tell from my previous post about family I am fed up with the ones mentioned in that post and some others not mentioned as they were not involved in that particular topic. I am also fed up with people who claim to be friends. I should clarify some of them truly are friends but they have no clue about the realties of life. My wife and I are friends with another couple who do not have any kids while we have two. They regularly call last minute asking us to do things if we can we will but not all things are family oriented. One of their regular requests is “Hey we are going to club &^%$ for some drinks why don’t you come with us?” Our normal response is we would love to but it is almost 11pm and we don’t have a babysitter. They then counter with “are you sure?” Are we sure? Ok what are our choices: 1. no. would love to go but to late to get a sitter. Or 2. OK we will take the kids to the bar and all get wasted or 3. OK we will lock the kids in the closed and see you in 10 minutes. They have no concept of responsibility. They funny thing is they just found out they are having a baby and don’t have a clue what they are in for. They can kiss the spur of the moment night outs good bye now.
The other type is the one who says give us a call and when you do they are too busy to talk at the moment say they will call you back and you never hear from them. This was a reoccurring situation with another couple “M and T” and I got fed up and said lets not call and see if they call us. It’s been almost two years and I ran into “M” this week and after catching each other up on what’s happened in the last two years he says you and the little lady should stop by “T” would love to see you and the kids give us a call. All I say in reply was “sounds good we should do that” but the whole time I was thinking if you really wanted to see us where the fuck were you for the last two years and what’s wrong with your phone that it can only receive incoming calls and not make outgoing calls? I am betting that it will be another year before we run in to them again and the same conversation will repeat itself. The last type I will mention right now are the selfish ones who are only interested if they are getting something out of the relationship. My wife and I are the type to bend over backwards to help some and people tend to take advantage of it. In the past year I have been changing my attitude towards this and have been becoming less and less helpful to certain people. It’s not that I don’t want to help but I am tired of helping people who show no gratitude and run and hide when someone else needs help. You know the type I’m talking about you only hear from them when they need something and when they get it they vanish until their next crises. My wife is fed up with it to but she still will stop everything to help these people while I won’t and it has caused some very interesting conversations at home. My attitude now is if the person is genuine I will help everyone else can go somewhere else.